Avoid Family Feuds When Distributing Assets

In the days after a person dies, some family members may decide to take matters into their own hands. These individuals may have a key to the home and decide they are going to take items they want. Before the will is even read, furniture, jewelry, artwork and other items may disappear. Cash around the home may be grabbed. In some cases, trash bags of stuff are hauled away.

Family feuds may erupt when other beneficiaries find out items are missing.

In some families, nothing brings out greed and long-time resentments like divvying up sentimental items that remind adult children of their childhoods. The situation can become even worse if it involves divorce, a blended family, or an unmarried couple.

Splitting up material possessions among family members can be more acrimonious than dividing up financial assets. If there are four heirs and a bank account worth $10,000, it's easy to divide it with each person receiving $2,500. But how do you divide a diamond ring or antique teapot four ways?

Unfortunately, some families wind up incurring large legal expenses over non-titled items that have more sentimental importance than monetary value.

To help avoid this in your family, here are some Q&As about how the executor collects and distributes the assets in an estate.

Q. Exactly how are assets distributed?

A. Here is a brief rundown of the process. After the will is read, the executor must inventory and gather the assets of the estate. Appraisals may be needed for items of value, such as jewelry.

An estate bank account is opened up by the executor, who also obtains a tax ID number. The various accounts of the deceased person are then transferred to the account.

The executor must pay creditors, file tax returns and pay any taxes due. Then, he must collect any money or benefits owed to the decedent. Finally, he or she distributes the remainder in accordance with the will. The executor generally exercises discretion in distributing personal and household items. (Unwanted items must be disposed of or donated to charity.)

Q. How long does it take before assets in a will are given to beneficiaries?

A. Generally, beneficiaries have to wait a certain amount of time, say at least six months. That time is used to allow creditors to come forward and to pay them off with the estate assets. (In some cases, an executor may make partial distributions to the heirs after he or she estimates the debts. However, if the estimates are wrong, the distributions can be called back.)

Q. What happens in the time between when a person dies and the assets are finally distributed?

A. The executor must handle the everyday tasks of the estate to preserve the assets. For example, if there is a home that needs to be sold, the executor must be sure to make mortgage payments, as well as pay insurance premiums and utility bills. (Foreclosure can be started if a few mortgage payments are missed.)

Q. What if a relative has a key to the home and goes in to take items he or she wants?

A. The executor should inventory the assets as soon as possible -- before family members get a chance to remove items. If a valuable or important item is taken, and the person responsible refuses to return it, a court can step in to order the item back into the estate.

If the executor knows there are outstanding keys to the decedent's house, or is concerned about someone coming in without authorization, the locks should be changed.

Q. What happens if the beneficiaries are not satisfied with the way the executor distributes personal items? Or what if the heirs suspect the executor has taken or hidden certain valuable items for himself or herself?

A. The beneficiaries can request an informal accounting of the assets from the executor. If the executor refuses, or the beneficiaries are still not satisfied, they can petition the court for a mandatory accounting. Consult with your attorney about how to proceed.

Q. What can I do to prevent these types of disputes from occurring after I die?

A. There are a number of steps you can take:

No matter who you name as an executor, the individual will appreciate clear, written instructions.

This article only provides basic answers to some of the questions involved in the distribution of assets. Consult with your estate planning adviser about your situation. By planning ahead, you can avoid battle lines being drawn after your death over possessions accumulated during your life.

"Textbook Example of Headaches, Heartaches and Expense"

Without specific estate instructions concerning asset distribution, family members can be left guessing what a deceased person would want -- or decide what to do themselves.

In one case, a Michigan probate court had to step in and resolve bitter disputes by distributing numerous items. The court called it "a textbook example of the headaches, heartaches, and expense that can result from inadequate estate planning."

Facts of the case: According to court documents, Barbara Waters was divorced and living with Kevin Goethe when she died. She had three children from a previous marriage and he had one son.

Goethe built and furnished the house. When the couple moved in together, they combined household furnishings and purchased items together and individually.

Goethe proposed and purchased an engagement ring but the couple never married. "Ms. Waters was diagnosed with cancer and told Mr. Goethe it would be unfair of her to marry him because of her illness," according to court documents.

Waters made out a handwritten (holographic) will and signed it "Mom." Upon review, the court stated the document did not meet the state's legal requirements and was therefore invalid.

Weeks after Waters' death, her children moved out of Goethe's home. He packed some belongings and left them on the front porch for the children to pick up. He was not home when they arrived. The children gained entry to the house through another relative. They removed "almost everything they thought was their mother's."

Goethe testified the house was "ransacked." Family photographs were removed. One photo was ripped in two, with Goethe's image returned to the frame and Waters' image taken.

The Probate Court called the children's actions "offensive." It then made decisions to divide the items, including:

The judge stated the court could not adopt either "extreme position" -- that everything in the house belonged to Goethe or that the children were entitled to anything connected with their mother.

He added: "there is a difference between saying or writing down what you hope will happen and taking the proper legal steps to assure that a court will enforce your intentions." (Waters, Probate Court for the County of Marquette, No. 10-31879-DE)

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